There is no magical right time to forgive. Forgiveness is not about timing. It does not even matter if the perpetrator has confessed their wrong. It matters even less if they have asked for forgiveness. That is reconciliation. Or if relationship has never been right, the perpetrator’s penitence can be a building block toward just relating. But reconciliation and justice are partner dances. Forgiveness is freestyle. It only requires one.
Lisa Sharon Harper